Co-Parenting Summer Holidays: Essential Tips for Separated Parents

Navigating co-parenting during the summer holidays can be tricky, but with a bit of planning and clear communication, you can ensure a smooth and enjoyable break for everyone.

Plan Ahead

In an ideal world, holiday arrangements would be discussed and agreed upon well in advance. However, if summer has crept up on you, do not worry – it is not too late. Having open communication is key to a harmonious co-parenting relationship. Try to work together to agree on a plan that will suit everyone, especially the children.

Tips:

• Try using a shared calendar or a parenting app to help keep arrangements organised.
• Be specific, include dates, times, locations and travel arrangements
• Confirm arrangements in writing, this could be a text or an email, to avoid any misunderstandings

Split the Time Fairly

The starting point for splitting time is 50/50, but fairness is not always about an exact split of time; it is about what is best for the children. When working out arrangements, consider work schedules, childcare options, travel plans, and the children’s routine.

Tips:

• Maybe a specific pattern might work for you (2-2-3 or 2-2-5-5)
• Ensure that each parent has the opportunity to take the children away on a holiday
• Make sure you have flexibility around each other’s schedules and the schedules of the children

Travelling abroad

If you or your co-parent plan to take the children abroad this summer holiday, you must ensure you have the current permissions in place. Any parent with parental responsibility needs to give consent. Parental responsibility refers to the legal authority to make significant decisions regarding a child’s life. A mother automatically has it from birth, and a father usually has it if he is married to the mother or named on the birth certificate. Others, like unmarried fathers, same-sex partners, or stepparents, can get it through an agreement with the mother, a court order, or by registering the birth together.

Tips:

• Obtain permission from the other parent in writing (include dates and destination)

Follow the Plan (But Stay Flexible)

Once you have agreed on a plan, do your best to follow the plan to keep things clear and avoid misunderstandings. That said, life doesn’t always go as expected; unexpected events like delays or emergencies can arise. When they do, try to be flexible and keep communication open to handle changes smoothly and respectfully.

Keep Children Out of Disputes

Never put your child in the middle of disagreements. Avoid asking them to choose sides, pass messages, or get involved in adult decisions. Let them enjoy their summer feeling secure, knowing their parents are working together peacefully.

Consider a Written Agreement

If holiday contact often leads to disagreements, having a written parenting plan or court order can help clear things up and prevent future conflicts. Our team can support you by drafting or reviewing these documents to ensure everyone understands and agrees on the arrangements.

Contact our Family Law solicitors today

At Ashtons Legal LLP, we support families through these arrangements with care and clarity. Whether you need help resolving a dispute or setting up a formal contact schedule, our team is here to guide you every step of the way. Please contact our specialist Family Law team by using our online enquiry form or by calling 0330 191 0070.